Solo living

I am wondering how many people on the list live alone? I have just rented a flat and feel apprehensive about how I am going to manage although I have to do it as I am sick of living in a room. I have lived on my own before but that was a while ago.

Comment 1: I live alone. I prefer to live like this than in a room. But I have a house that is really too much for me to look after. A flat should be OK.

Comment 2: Get a few tropical fish and join a fish club. I did that, but I have grown kids living with me too. Now I have 1,656 baby fish also driving me nutz. But they do not need housebreaking, don’t bite the neighbors and don’t make much noise in the middle of the night. So I don’t complain too much. It is a lot of work to keep up a lot of fish tanks, so I get a lot of exercise. The local pet shop loves to buy a new batch of my young fish weekly. I have made a lot of pet shop owner friends and other fishy friends. And people write to me from all over the world – As some of my fish are rare. I keep my RSI in check -and my spirits are lifted -as I get out quite a bit more now because of the fish. I had no idea that fish love to make babies so rapidly. I tried drowning them to get rid of them, but they just multiplied all the faster! Now my 2 huge Mystery snails produced whole entire herds of little ones too. I am really stuck with these animals. The faster I get rid of them, the faster they multiply and are taking over my house and my time. I just don’t have the time anymore to dwell on any personal problems. Now the plants are starting to choke the tanks too. I will have to establish a regular aquarium route soon to peddle off these animals daily, like the milkman of old. Maybe one dog or cat might be the answer for you.

Comment 3: How could you drown a living creature?

Comment 4: I see I misunderstood the question. I thought it was about the practicalities of living alone when you’re disabled. Sorry about that.

Comment 5: I live alone – always have done as an adult (30 years now)… well, alone except for the cats. I now have someone to clean for me, someone who does most of the gardening for me. Last week I even paid an ironing service to do the backlog for me, as my hands/arms had been too bad for several consecutive weeks to do it. I’d go nuts without a bit of garden – some outdoor space that is mine – so I don’t have to ‘go somewhere’ in order to be outdoors – can just step outside and have tea in the garden. 

Comment 6: You did not misunderstand. It is about the practicalities of living alone when disabled. PS. I don’t know why my response is underlined? Must be the editor I am using.

Comment 7: I’ve never had the chance to live alone completely, but … Be careful, I have had an aquarium for quite a few years, but if it wasn’t for my partner (when my daughter left home) I would have had to close it down. Cleaning the filter, carrying water in and out, etc., could take me, left alone, a very long time and whole lotta agro! If you did start up an aquarium make sure it is sited low so you don’t have
to reach up and in (if you see what I mean!!)

“Maybe one dog or cat might be the answer for you”. – Personally, and I think others would agree, leaving one dog alone all day while you are at work, etc., is just not fair on the dog! My mother used to breed dogs years ago, but would never sell a puppy to anyone who would leave the dog alone for long periods of time. Cats – no comment! When you say, “how am I going to manage” do you mean mentally or physically, or both? I find when the other half goes away for a while, then life slows down: I take more time doing everything, go to bed when I want to go, in other words a much slower, relaxed routine! Housework, etc is still managed, but a bit at a time. Also, I have very good neighbours, so if I get stuck with
something really stupid that I haven’t the strength to do, I am not embarrassed to ask them for help or even, if desperate, “phone a friend”!

Comment 8: Thank you for confirming that. I’d better go through my house and make a list of things I have here, some installed by the previous owners, some mine. One thing I have is a digital cordless phone with 2 handsets. There are lots of grab bars here, installed before I came. I have long- handled things. I can’t remember what they’re called; my mind’s going (yet again) to pick things up from the floor. (Falling is something I’m concerned about since I had a very nasty fall about 3 years ago, from which I haven’t fully recovered.) My list might be different from other people as I also have, as I have to have said 100 times, a bad back too! Anything that seems a bit odd here either is odd, or is because of my back.

Comment 9: Ok – here’s what springs to my mind, starting at the top of the house.

  • headset for the phone
  • electric toothbrush
  • easy-to-put-on clothes and shoes
  • a button hook with a big fat handle
  • lever taps
  • big rubber grab-things on the taps that aren’t levers
  • (haven’t got but need a ‘lighter’ flush mechanism on the toilet)
  • big lightweight rocker electric light switches that don’t need finger pressure
  • *large* fob on the bathroom light pull cord
  • door handles not knobs
  • electric tin opener
  • electric screw-driver
  • *lots* of gizmos for gripping things and opening jars, bottles, ring pulls, etc adapted table cutlery for *really* bad days
  • knives, peelers, graters etc with big fat grippy rubber handles
  • scissors and garden pruners designed not to need thumb pressure
  • food processor and microwave oven; and freezer full of ready prepared food
  • kettle that will safely boil a small amount of water and can be lifted and
  • poured with two hands
  • all the pens and pencils lying around the house have rubber grips on them.

There’s probably more, but that’s what springs to mind. All costs money.

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